Ian & Cengey's story
My name is Ian and I am a married gay male. My husband and I have been married for 2 years and have since been trying to start a family of our own. After numerous calls to adoption agencies over a couple of weeks, we were struck by the harsh reality of the adoption process and the availability of children in need homes to gay couples. We were informed by numerous adoption agencies that it would take more than 2 years to find a child for us to adopt, unless we find someone wanting to give their baby up for adoption ourselves.
This seemed an impossible task at first, but fortunately we came into contact with a 15 year old pregnant girl who wanted to give her baby up for adoption. After meeting with her we received a call 2 weeks later, it was her wanting to inform us that she wants us to adopt her (unborn) child. We were overwhelmed with joy and started making all the necessary arrangements. Kelly Cloete from Child Welfare came on board as our Social Worker and was helping us with all the necessary steps we have to take. We kept in contact with the birth mom during the course of her pregnancy and we were present with he checkups. We prepared the nursery for the arrival of the little one and prepared a baby bag for the hospital for when it was time to bring the little one home.
Yesterday morning at approximately 5am the little one graced us with its presence. We were at the hospital since 1am, and waited patiently for the news of itís arrival. We were scheduled to meet with the Social Worker at the hospital at 10am, but unfortunately she was tied up in meetings. We were fortunate enough to get to see and hold the little one while it was in the nursery.
At 12pm an hour before baby was due to be discharged into our care, the birth mom decided to change her mind. We know that she will do everything in her power to care and love this baby and I respect her decision and her bravery to take on this role as mother at her young age. Unfortunately for us, we are left with open hearts and an open nursery. We donít know where to begin again. My husband suggested surrogacy, as this may seem the easiest road to take, I am still wanting to adopt as there are many children in need of homes and a loving family.
I am contacting every childrens home in hopes that somewhere there is someone that could help us give a loving home to a child in need of it.