The Sound of Us - Sarah Willis
I bought this book by chance on at a book sale. I've had it on my shelf for months and have only now just got around to reading it. An insightful novel about fostering children and well worth a read.
As a parent that has adopted I have very little insight into what the birth parents of either adoptees or children if foster care go through. This book gives you a glimps of both sides of the coin.
Well worth a read.
Although this book is American I feel that many of the issues are universal.
The one exercise that the foster mother had to do at her foster parenting classes I found very interesting and I feel that it is something that any trans-racial adoptive parent should try:
The class was divided into smaller groups of four people. Each person was given a cup and each group was given a tub of different coloured beads. Each colour represents a different race. The co-ordinator then proceeded to ask the class a set of questions and for each question they had to choose a bead that represented the culture of the person/people of the answer.
Your immediate family?
Your spouse or partner?
Your co-workers? ( the bead that represents the majority)
The authors of the books you read?
and so on and so forth.....
As the main character in the book realised, I too realised that my cup would be very full of white beads with a smattering of one or two other colours. While the black or coloured people in her group had a cup filled with all sorts of colours.
Considering that I am now the mother of two children of another race it made me realise that I need to reasses all these people in my life and try where I can to atleast broaden my circles so that even if I don't have a rainbow in my cup, I would atleast have something that resembles fruit salad rather than vanilla ice-cream.